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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Healthy Relationship

I'm happy and it feels good.  Seems now-a-days people have a lot going on and the negatives seem to be highlighted more than the positives.

It's been a whirlwind couple of years for me in relationships but I finally feel like I'm in a great place.  Why wouldn't I talk about it?

Other than blogging about my trips, I've never given much detail on my past relationships... I think most people know that I was dating someone from out of state (those that followed me on myspace know that we dated for several years), and that is really all I care to share, otherwise I would have shared more, obviously.  I also think that most of you know now that I'm in a new relationship - and if you didn't know, you need to read a bit more carefully.

Not to discredit any of my past relationships because I was happy in them; I am now in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in!  I'm very low-drama but I also need a lot of attention so it's hard for me to find a good balance; never anyone else's fault, my own issue.  In the past it's always been frustrating to me because of commitment issues, distance (long distance relationships are hard!), or something else that just wasn't working, for myself or the both of us.

It's amazing to me how relationships just fall into your lap.

It's easy to look back and say I can't believe I let myself continue in that relationship or Why did I let him treat me that way.  The one thing I've learned over the past few years is that I deserve to be treated the same way I treat someone.  I'm a good great girlfriend to have; I love completely and with my whole heart, I'm funny, I'm outgoing, I'm honest, I'm giving, I'm kind, and I honestly care about people.  I should have the same given back to me.
Those things are finally starting to come to me during the relationship, not after.  Isn't it funny how we learn and grow each day, and differently with different people around us?

One thing that is interesting to me is the whole 'relationship' aspect of it - I don't know that I've ever been in a "real" relationship.  I wrote a blog several months ago that I quickly unpublished (if you were lucky enough to read it, you may remember); it talked about how I've always been the girl that ends up in the 'friends with benefits' situation; I'm not sure I know how to be a big girl and be in a real relationship! It's fun learning though...

I'm in a good place and I've got a great guy - Its healthy and its good!

6 comments:

Kristi said...

Glad you are so happy with your honey! I think you're wrong about one thing though....I don't think relationships fall into our lap, I think they take time to nurture and develop. It may be WHO the relationship is with that falls into your lap!

Ang said...

You're absolutely right, Kristi!

Dana Leigh said...

I'm very happy for you! I, myself had been in unhealthy relationships in the past too and you really know once you are actually in a healthy relationship because it is so different from the other past ones and you do have to laugh at what you once "settled" for. I hope you guys continue going strong for as long as you want to!

Ang said...

Thanks Dana!

Lovi said...

I'm happy for you! Sounds like you are doing well. :-)

Krysten Hartenstein said...

Good to hear that you're in a happy AND healthy relationship. You sound a lot like me and I know that when my husband and I finally got together it was weird to be in a spot like that - where I didn't have to worry about drama or fighting. Enjoy it, it's a fun place to be!

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